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We also offer many great features with our premium subscription to make finding friends and matches even easier. With a paid subscription, you can choose an ad-free experience, see who’s online in real-time, filter by sexuality, use the app in incognito mode (without exposing your identity), view who’s liked you, and more.
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HER is the world’s most loved sapphic dating app. We exist to help you find your people and fall head over heels. Made for queers, by queers.
Join 13+ million sapphic folks
Find someone LGBTQIA you click with
4.5 stars on the App Store
Apple Editor’s Choice 2020, 2019
Supportive sapphic community
Join one of our 30+ FLINTA groups
Queer conversation
Make new friends & chat easily
Meet, date, make friends
Built for you, wherever you are
Meeting new people, having new experiences, connecting with each other – that’s what dating should be about! But often for queer people, we need queer spaces – because the only way to make connections is by feeling safe enough to be ourselves. Sapphic spaces offer the safety and support to be completely ourselves without fear.
With HER’s nurturing community, you can meet like-minded people, share your story, and maybe even meet your person. No matter your life experiences or current circumstances, HER is a home for you. We welcome all lesbian, bi+, queer, non-binary, trans, and gender non-conforming folks to join and find their family. Head to the App Store or the Play Store and see what happens!
We met on HER!
Amanda & Rasheeda
“The moment I laid eyes on her, I knew. So did she…I am so grateful for HER bringing us together.”
Sam & Bronwtn
“It all started with a hello and now, I am married to the most gorgeous woman in the world.”
Sarah & Kylee
“I knew the moment I saw Sarah’s photo I was interested in them. Luckily, they felt the same way!”
Sapphic topics
Topping, bottoming and switching: Which are you and what are you looking for?
The terms top, bottom, and switch are becoming more frequently used amongst all sapphic & LGBTQIA people. They can refer to someone’s sexual preferences, level of dominance, role in their relationships, or all of the above.
Lesbian or bi? Things to know if you're questioning
For many queer people, figuring out one’s sexuality is not always an easy process. Sexuality is complex and can often get confusing (and even downright overwhelming!). We break down what to pay attention to if you’re questioning.
All about trans dating
Learn more about the most common questions related to transgender dating and how to make it easier and more respectful for everyone.
What makes a dating app unique for lesbians?
Find out more about lesbian dating and the safest way to connect with queer women and dykes of all stripes.
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Is the HER app safe? How does HER support sapphic dating?
On HER, your profile and your search for people are completely in your hands. You can choose to identify yourself in any way you wish, pick from a variety of different pride pins (like “Chapstick Lesbian” or “T4T”) that explain who you are and what you’re looking for, or even choose to go incognito so no one can see you unless you like them first.
We also want our users to have all the resources to safely navigate HER. We encourage users to verify their profiles and filter for other verified profiles. And we do our utmost to keep fake people and fake profiles off of HER.
Is the HER app free? How does the HER premium subscription work?
All of HER’s core features are completely free, so finding your person or your community is accessible to everyone. With the free version of the app, you can add friends, view profiles, start chats, view events, and join communities.
We also offer many great features with our premium subscription to make finding friends and matches even easier. With a paid subscription, you can choose an ad-free experience, see who’s online in real-time, filter by sexuality, use the app in incognito mode (without exposing your identity), view who’s liked you, and more.
I just came out, but am not dating yet. Can I use HER to make friends?
We’ve found that people join HER for similar reasons. That’s why we have an ‘Add Friend’ option on profiles so you can build your community of people. Dating apps, while obviously great for dating, can be just as integral in finding people who get you and help you create a community around you.
If you move to a new city or visit a new town, dating apps can be a great way to find out what’s going on nearby, get a taste of the queer scene there, and meet new people. Even if you’re just at home, there are always new people you haven’t met and new things to experience right on your doorstep. Our app specifically also has a community portion of the app purely for making friends, having conversations about many different topics, and finding your niche.
What makes the HER experience better for FLINTA / LGBTQIA folks?
For many queer folks, there’s not just one label that feels right. Identities are complex and varied, and your profile should be able to reflect that. If there’s nothing on there that fits, you can also self-describe or not include a label. You should be free to identify in a way that feels right to you. There’s also the disheartening feeling of swiping through too many people with things like “no trans people” in their profile.
Everyone on HER is part of the queer community and we take a very firm and proactive stance against hateful/discriminatory behavior. We want to make this a space where you can focus on connections and conversations that could lead to more friends or a new bae!
Is this app safe for closeted individuals?
Coming out is a beautiful experience but it is hard. It is hard to step outside of the norm that society forces on us and in some cases, it can be unsafe. We have many users who join HER to discover themselves while keeping themselves safe in their home environments. Finally being able to safely chat with other queer people, make friends, and maybe even matches is often a healing and rewarding experience for our users.
And they can do it all without coming out. We offer the option to go incognito where only people you like will be able to see you – allowing you to use the app’s full features with an extra measure of safety. It’s all on your terms. There are several options to choose from to keep you safe and help you feel comfortable.
How many FLINTA or LGBTQIA people use HER?
HER serves 13 million lesbian, bi, queer, non-binary, trans, gender non-conforming folks as they build the community of people they can call home.
What countries is HER available in?
We are available in 125+ different countries and locally available in English, Spanish, French, German, and Japanese. See all the countries we’re in .
How can I download HER and create an account?
To create an account with us download HER for free from either the Play Store or the App Store. Once downloaded, you can create an account using your Apple Login (If you have an iOS device), Facebook, Instagram, or phone number.
Once you’ve confirmed your sign-up method you can start the fun part: Building your profile! Here you can add profile pictures, facts about yourself, and a bio to give others on our app a chance to see what your gorgeous self is all about. Tip: Take some time to verify your account, too! Our verified users get double the likes. ❤️ ❤️